[https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=42103203]

Lately, I’ve had this intuition that we change by sort of tricking ourselves. The mechanism for that change is by settling on like this one kind of character, like someone out of a movie that’s playing in your head, and acting like that person. Then, as time passes, we simply forget who we were before we started acting and the only way we know how to act is as this one character.

You say you’ve lost your ‘story’ and your ‘character’, that you don’t ‘act’ anymore.

But, it just feels like you’ve made another story and another character for you to fit into. You’ve got a new aesthetic, a new ideal, and your appreciating sunsets and nature is another thing you do because that’s what the ‘character’ you try to fit would do.

And by acting like that person in your head would, you start to feel the same way too.